We can be more compassionate. We will inevitably, in the course of therapy, realise how much we were let down by certain people in the past. A natural response might be blame. But the eventual mature reaction (building on an understanding of how our own flaws arose) will be to interpret others’ harmful behaviour as a consequence of their own disturbance. The people who caused our primal wounds almost invariably didn’t mean to do so; they were themselves hurt and struggling to endure.
The School of Life
Yeah, it’s pretty self-explanatory that passage of text.
To put it in a simpler form: Sometimes we don’t mean to hurt others but we do because we’re hurting inside also.
This is why I made a big emphasis on forgiveness in the previous post. Forgiving isn’t just forgiving others, it is also forgiving yourself. After all, we tend to project what we feel internally.